We all go through it... Backsliding.

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We all go through it... Backsliding.

Postby andrwfields on Thu Apr 13, 2006 12:18 am

Hey guys,
First off I just wanted to say thanks for bringing me into this "core group" of people. It's good to know that I'm not alone in my struggles of everyday life. It's also good to talk to other people about it who understand.

The real reason for this post is my frequent backsliding. I don't know if that word is really the right one, but it's the first that comes to mind.

Anywho, I feel like I go strong in my faith for a few days. And just randomly, I'll hit a spot where I slip up and I curse, I watch a porn, I have a drink, and anything else that isn't what Christ wouldn't want me to do. Thing is, when I do it, I know I'm doing wrong. I know that I should stop. But I can't. It's like I lose control of my own will.

What scares me the most is the vision I get. It's like, when I set there watching that porn, or drinking that beer, I can see myself through a window of time. I see myself doing those drugs and doing immorral things with those women. It scares me. I worry so much that one day, the glass will break.

Those are the times when I pray, but I feel that my prayers go unanswered. What can I do?
"...An Apology. If you met me between 1987 and 2005 and I told you, "I'll pray for you," that was a lie. Never happened. I probably didn't pray for you. And that's not cool." - Prodigal Jon from StuffChristiansLike.blogspot.com
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Postby ColtsFan76 on Thu Apr 13, 2006 6:34 am

Well first off, welcome! Second, we all struggle. I wouldn't necessarily say you are backsliding - that usually comes after a long period of not turning to God. The "little" things that happen every so often are jut a reflection of our sin life that will be there, in some form, the rest of our earthly life.

I think the important steps are 1) keep turning it over to Jesus. When you get in those situations, even simple little prayers like "Jesus, I turn this moment over to you." can be powerful and help bolster you.
2) FInd accountability - here is good - so is someone in person on your end of the computer screen.
3) Take practical steps in removing the sin before you sin. Porn really isn't my struggle any more. It used to be bad, but that was because I had it laying around the house. I would do my best to keep it stored away. But it was always in reach. You have to just throw those things out. If you have a TV service that allows you to watch it, set the parental controls. If it's the computer, get the software the other guys have gotten. Regardless, I found I could control my sin better by removing the possibilities in my moments of strength than I could counting on not being tempted in my moments of weakness.
4) Don't beat yourself up over it. I am not a drinker - but I have nothing against someone popping open a beer every once in a while. Nor do I believe that to be a sin. If you get drunk, most definitely cut it out (pour it all out baby!). If it leads you to doing other sin, remove it from your life. But if you just have one now and then, don't discourage yourself any more than you have to. I sometimes find my failures when it comes to sin give me a helpless attitude and I want to sin just because I am doing poorly. So don't consider things a sin that are not Biblically classified as sin. (But also don't use this as an excuse to not deal with something that is borderline or truly a sin).
5) Get into the Bible or other Christian material that will hold your attention. Then when you feel like sinning, grab it and read. Nothing to cure your desire for something than reading the Bible! Usually the Psalms are quick little snippets that deal with your struggle right off the bat. Just turn to the middle of the Bible and start reading. Or pick up some Christian fiction or something that will help you until the desire passes.
6) Just keep on praying about it. Praying and staying in God's word will make your prayer life more effective.
James 1:19-20 (NIV)
My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.

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Re: We all go through it... Backsliding.

Postby thea on Wed Feb 27, 2008 6:30 am

but - maybe it's not backsliding as we have been taught in some churches --

maybe it is the testing and trials that come as we are learning to "walk" "sit" "stand"
in the presence of God himself.

Just the fact that you recognize not being able to stay where you really want to stay
tells me that Jesus "is a-workin' on ya" So - quit your hollowering and understand
this --

In my life I have failed many times -- but Jesus always let me get to the next
mountain top experience also. It is when we are in the valley and don't see why
we are having problems --

try using Psalms 50: 14 and 15.

Ask Jesus for help - thank Jesus for helping you - then start watching for the
miracles to take place in your life.

When we are alone - or around other people who are not searching for Jesus -
then we have a tendancy to pick up the bad side of them -- I think that
is because we see ourselves from Jesus' view point - and that means
that we understand things no one else does.

I had a boss who was a drunk, many years ago, and he cussed like a !!
and I picked up the language I was ahearin' and it took some time to
get rid of it.

You only cuss when you get "mad"!! And you get mad because things are
not going your way!! Well, Jesus says they are not going to go our way -
because HE is trying to get us to LET HIM have all of us -

Jesus love you.
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